Today, once again my friend, who shall remain anonymous, did what I consider a very inconsiderate deed.
I had agreed to take her to the train station today. But she was to call me last night and discuss the details. I did not hear from her, so I called her once but and she did not answer, nor did she ever call me back and talk about the plans.
I thought she had made other arrangements.
This morning I woke up around 6:20....and still this friend had not arrived...so I went about my business...checked my house phone, and still no messages...okay... for sure she found another ride.
At 6:45, right as my coffee was brewing, and I was loading my last load of laundry, this person burst into the house.....screeching my name and DEMANDING to know if I was ready to take her to the train station.
Errrrrr.....
I told her that I was not expecting her, and that her not calling me to let me know the plan was a lack of common courtesy.....
To which she replied... with sarcasm am and righteousness in her voice..." You can lecture me in the car"....She was incensed that I was not ready.....The nerve!
She stormed out the door and told me she would be waiting in the car.
Grumbling, I threw on my coat, brushed my teeth, poured my coffee in a cup to go, with all good intentions of getting her to ther desired destination.
As I was walking out the door, I heard her screaming at me that she was going to miss her train. I couldn't believe it. She had come almost 30 minutes late, and she is screaming at me...that she was going to miss the train..unbelievable.
I said "Not my problem", with as much nastiness as possible...
"Your the one that is late, not me"....
Then then she shot off some other smart ass remark.....This is where it all went down hill...and got really nasty.
Being that this is a Spiritual Dog Blog.....I must reflect upon my immature actions because I'm sure that there must have been a better method to handle the following exchange;
Because I then told her "F--K Off.I then went on to tell her that she was lucky that I did not just turn around and walk back into the house.
She again gave some sorta smart answer that riled me even more, and then proceeded with as much snottiness as one could possibly put into the English language, to ask me if that's what I wanted to do.
I of course turned on my heel and stomped into the house.....while telling her you betcha.
Now upon reflection, I can see that both of us behaved badly.....And as I struggled with figuring out a better way to convey my dismay when someone is totally inconsiderate and rude, I found this solution.
NEXT TIME I WILL JUST MAIL IT
Saturday, October 6, 2007
My Spiritual Evolution
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5 comments:
While it would have been nice to handle it differently, I think you would have to have been Ghandi or a saint to do so!
I'm not sure how else a human being could handle it! You did all you could to finalize the plan - you were doing HER a favor - and she got mad at YOU when she didn't return your calls or confirm anything?
I would say your self-centered 'friend' owes you a big fat apology along with some sort of explanation of her slide into psychosis! Holy cow!
thanks lavender, BJ and Lady Banana,
At least when I wrote the blog I got a smile out of it!
I have been so anti social these past few years, and I am trying to become a people person again...but when things like this happen...my dogs look much more interesting!
I'm sure she has a side...if she does...go ahead and post "you know who"....I know she reads my blogg....hehehehe
I am an animal communicator and so I will give you my best 'dog response"....smile. Since they are very loving and forvgiving...smile.
"I am very sorry you are so upset and angry. You did not carry out your half of the agreement. You did not call to discuss this morning. So I called you and you did not answer, or respond to the message I left you, so I assumed you made other plans. Therefore this is totally your problem and not mine. You are still my friend. We all have challenges, make mistakes, are running late. If you would like some help, then please ask me and I will be happy to help and so the best I can. Yelling and screaming your demands in my face, is not a way to gain my respect, nor a way to get me to help you. If you want some help right now. If you need some help, please just ask and I will do my best to help you. I simply do not respond to someone who screams demands in my face and is blaming me for their having a bad morning. It is not my problem unless you wish to make it so. Do you want need some help?"
I live with my best friend for 40 years and still would not respond to someone making demands of me in this way. I would and do respond with love. Talking to animals for over 16 years has transformed my life. And in the process I have learned to "communicate with love". I teach people how yelling and screaming at a dog or anyone else is not the way to get them to respond in the way you desire!
Love, Morgine
In my mine, I have also rethought how this could of gone;
If she would of said, right of the bat:
"I'm sorry that we have gotten on the wrong page about this....." and ment it.
I could of responded;
with more understanding and sucked it in.....and just taken her to the train station...and let it all go
but, it takes two people to communicate with respect.
thanks for the post, it was interesting.
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