Friday, May 9, 2008

Beware Of......


Such a crappy experience but an eye opening one....

So there I was trying to help MY mother and this swarm of non speaking people were buzzing around me.

For some reason, the minute I walked in there was tension in the room. I'll never know if my brother had warned them of me...of what I'm not sure, but I have an inkling that it could of been about my Chinese medicine.

I'll never know, because I never intend to see those people again.

So there I was, looking at my mother's tongue, taking her pulse, getting ready to do some mild acupuncture. I was also going to suggest that we get her back to the hospital because it was apparent she was very ill.

In the state of California, an acupuncturist is considered a primary care giver, so we have to refer to acute care if the situation merits it. In the case of my mother, it did at that moment,

But I had no time to help her, because the minute I started interacting with her, these people were buzzing around my head. And when I got ready to do some acupuncture, that's when one of those people started to get physical.

This non speaking English woman was yelling and grabbing at me, telling me I could not do anything unless "Roger" says its okay.

That was like waving a red flag in front of a bull....since when did I go on my brother's payroll I was thinking. I dropped out of that palace hierarchy over seven years ago....he had no control over me...

I told the woman that it was MY mother and to stop bothering me. She pulled me again...At that point, with all the old demons floating in the back of my head, I went up to her and was about to deck her, she was no physical match for me....

When....the little voice in the back of my head said......"Holly is this really worth it?" because one of the other Mexican ladies was in the process of calling the police.

I kept looking at my mother expecting her to tell them to stop it, because I was her daughter. She said nothing.

I don't think I can ever forgive her for that. I know she was really sick, but she could talk....this is not the first time something along this line has happened, where she let my brother or my brother's attack dogs had come after me.

I think she allowed this because she so much likes the attention of my brother, and there she was in all the glory, HER SON was taking care of her.

So....I quickly summed up the situation and said screw it, it was not worth me having to deal with the police and everything that went along with that scene.

Once I made up my mind, I packed up my things, looked at my mom, and told her I would never see her again.

In my mind, my mother died that day.

I have not seen or spoken to my father or my brother for over seven years. They are no longer my family.

Now my mother is gone to me....

Just because your born into a family does not mean that one must continue to swallow toxic crap and that was my last gulp of my families poison.

Never Again.....the last door finally closed. I'm outta there.....forever.

7 comments:

Lone Chatelaine said...

I'd give you a big hug right now if I could, Holly. You've done all you could do. It's out of your hands.

I'm so sorry this happened.

Pawhealer said...

Awww....thanks.

I'm okay with things now. It really stung for all last week.

Whata family...I think that's why I such a hermit.

I wonder if we can ever get past stuff like this....it was bad growing up....thought I had moved past that stuff.

Thanks for taking the time to care...I've been licking my wounds and nice words help them to heal.

BetteJo said...

You made the effort Holly. You went when everything inside you was screaming at you not to go.

Y'know - even if your brother did not have confidence in what you could do for your mother, he had to know you would never hurt her.

Families are just sad messed up things sometimes, and I'm sorry you've lost yours. Even messed up - a family is supposed to be where you can go for unconditional love and support.

I'm sorry they've let you down so badly - and forced you to protect yourself. Sometimes that's all you can do.

Take care of yourself ~

Pawhealer said...

I know....its hard to accept that ones family can be so awful. But life's reality is that it's true.

I thought all that stuff was behind me....

It is when I stay away...and I have to keep with that.

A sad situation, but I'm okay. Sometimes very sad that it is a fact of my life.

Unknown said...

*hugs* to you Holly :=)

I said it on one of your earlier posts ... all you can do is your best and if people don't accept that, it's their choice. Having said that I wanted to punch your brother!

Starlite said...

Holly, I want you to know that you are not alone. I have a brother and when I was 25 I had to finally make a promise to myself never to be alone w/him again and I haven't. I could not deal w/his need to control everything and everyone, me included. I dealt w/his monsterous ways growing-up & my life is much better without him in it. It's as if the rest of the family thinks I'm the crazy one.Denial runs deep in my family too. On one hand I feel very liberated and relieved that I don't have to deal w/it anymore, but on the other, it hurts that I don't have a family to turn to. I do have a few very dear friends who are always there for me, so I am blessed. Just remember that you are blessed too. You have people who care about you, I'm one. Even though we've never met, I can tell you have a kind and giving heart. It's too bad for your family that they refuse to look. Their loss is our gain! You are a great person with a wonderful spirit. Don't ever believe anything else. Peace my friend. K

Anonymous said...

Just to let the few people on this thread know ..no one has ever liked Holly not just her brother NO ONE but she loves to blame everyone for her bad choices in life