Fabulous ... And Over 50

Oh my God; Thinking to to myself while strolling into the Sheraton Hotel's Four Point Lounge in which to attend an adult "singles party" for the over 40's crowd.

While at the same time I am asking myself; How in the world did I get sooooo old and where did all the time go and how did all of this happen to me? Over 50 and going to a bar....Nope this can't be.... For a moment there I seriously felt as if I was having an out of body experience, I guess I was in momentary denial!

But let's wait a second and let me digress. At this point you're probably wondering; What does being a single woman over forty (okay, okay...its over 50 but who will ever know?) have to do with a this Spiritual Dog Blog, and what does being over fifty have to do with dogs anyway?

Because just recently my friends have shared their concerns with me over the fact that I would rather hang out with Pinky (my dog) than seek out the attentions of eligible single males. They go on to continually remind me that so long as I chose to hang out with my dogs, I will never garner myself a real man.

When they tell me this stuff, I'm thinking ...Like I should care or something?

I guess when stepping back and contemplating the situation, maybe it could seem like a problem to others who are less dedicated to their dog families.

I want you to take a look at this picture and then honestly answer the question; Wouldn't you rather stay at home and watch TV with this little, cute, cuddly dog as opposed to venturing out on the town night after night, prowling around fruitlessly and in vein, hoping to find your soul mate?

This is a no brainier answer for me because dog company, at least in my experience, is much more preferable than male company....

Okay, now its out there and I've said it.... I know it sounds a little weird to some people, but I am sure there are many of you who are reading this blog that can relate to spending quality time with one's dog.

Anyhow, now that I have laid the foundation and your starting to know where I am coming from, I will get back to the story of my fun night with the girls...Their frustrating attempt at getting The Dog Lady of Sassafras Street a man;

While socializing at this singles party, it must have been apparent to my fellow single males that I had become somewhat rusty at social skills. This is very understandable since I had not been out lets say ohhhh about five years or so...

I know they thought this because when I was returning from the restroom, from a much needed break from the festivities, and while passing through the reception line, I was handed a piece of paper called Darlena's Do's and Don'ts. This was a set of social rules as to how one should conduct them self's while attending a social gathering of this sort.

Augggggg... I ask you; How looooooow can I go?

Yup, I was handed a list of rules telling me of the Do's and Don'ts of dating for those of us over 40......They were handed to me by a bald pudgy fellow. To make matters worse he told me to read them carefully because it was obvious that I was in desperate need of some party instruction.


I don't think "O", Oprah's magazine which is written for the mature female, has this in mind when they write the articles about being fifty and fabulous.

Do you think it can it get anymore humiliating?

These rules which I am posting in an abbreviated form, are for those of you who also might also benefit from this valuable information.

So friends, the next time if I ever chose to venture out again, and if I expect to get any male attention.... here's what I gotta do:

1) Be Sociable!

2) Women----DO NOT CONGREGATE all night long with "groups" of women...either standing or especially sitting. Try to be yourself, or with one other woman, and moving around---though not so fast that you can't be caught....

Augggg again.......can you believe this?

3.) Place yourself where the action is....closer to the buffet line, closer to the dance floor, closer to the bar service area. Don't hide in the corner, where no one will cross your path.

Well; This was a crowd that obviously like to eat and the buffet line was jammed! Defiantly the hot spot of the party and the place to be!

4.) When you see an interesting looking stranger glance at you from "across a crowded room" (eye contact)---SMILE!! (a smile is probably the most inviting gesture you can make.

I felt like my cheeks were cracking because I was trying too hard.

5) Whether your having a drink at the moment or not, put a glass of something in your hand anyway, it looks more sociable.

I continue to be appauld...

6) Do not allow yourself to get tied down to one person for th entire evening, if that is not what you want to do. It's certainly appropriate to say something like "Ive enjoyed talking with you, but we are supposed to be here to mingle, so I guess we'd better get busy. Nice talking with you". Then move on.

Never even considered it....not an issue.

7) Don't forget that only YOU can determine weather you will have a good time.

Now what can I say to that?

8) The people staying home won't meet anyone, so you've already taken a step in the right direction. How you have a great time and meet lot of new people.

And lastly...I missed a great night at home in front of the TV with the Pinkster, Orbit and Chico. You guessed it my dogs....

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