Anger Management

Anger Management

Husband says: When I get mad at you, you never fight back. How do you control your anger?

Wife says: I clean the toilet.

Husband says: How does that help?

Wife says: I use your toothbrush.

The Story Of Lollo & Her Liver Qi Stagnation

I by accident posted this from my herbal blog to this blog...and I was going to delete it, but it is a great cat story...so I've decided to leave it. I think "The Food Lady" did a great job with Lollo's story and its a cute read....

"bj@juno.com" <bj@juno.com> (Add as Preferred Sender)
Date:	Fri, Mar 27, 2009 4:18 pm
To:	holly@pawhealer.com

Hello, I'm Hedgie. Before the food lady contacted PawHealer, I was miserable. I was so grumpy that I seldom got any loves. When the food lady did try to be nice to me I was so irritated that I couldn't stand being touched. I squealed, scratched her and even bit her once. Nobody wanted to be near me because my breath was so bad you could smell me from two feet away. My coat was really ugly, so much so that the food lady took me to the groomer. (I was nice to them and they loved me and and that really ticked the food lady off.) The truth is, it's hard to live in a house with 6 other cats, when you want to be number one all the time. And, I should be number one, because I came to live here when I was 4 days old. The food lady fed me with a bottle and gave me loves every 2 hours. But then as I got older the time got to be less and less and I had to share more and more of the time. It was all down hill from there.

My health problems started about a year and a half ago. The food lady took me to this place where there were lots of others like me and some other kinds of creatures that made some kind of silly barking noises. They stuck needles in me and made me go to sleep. While I was sleeping they hurt my mouth and said that my bad breath was from sores in my mouth caused by bad teeth. Within months of that ordeal, the food lady took me back again and I had to go through the whole thing all over again. That time I had to stay a whole week because I won't let the food lady give me medicine and the people at that horrible place had to do it. In the end it did no good, because within a few months nobody could stand to be near me again.

To her credit, the food lady didn't want me to have to go through that again, so she looked for an alternative that would be less stressful for me. She found PawHealer and told them all about me. They told the food lady that it was not my teeth that was causing my problem, but that I was a very angry kitty and my liver had become toxic. They sent her some Chinese herbs and I have been eating my food with the herbs for one week now. In that short time my breath has improved 85% and I am feeling so much better. I have been getting lots of hugs and loves and I have not felt like scratching or biting. I also have not minded the company of the other cats and, in fact, I actually felt like playing with Lena yesterday. I hate her.

So, here I am sitting on the porch, enjoying the sun, the birds, the sound of the wind in the palms. I'm loving life and the food lady so much more. I can't wait until next week.

Hedgie (Lollobrigida), Lollo for short.
My food lady is Jean T from Miami Springs Florida

Thank you PawHealer

Can You say Tired?

OMG....I feel as if I am barley going to make it...this is the final semester with two weeks to go.

business has been doing great....10 hour work days and being available 7 days a week...

IS MAKING ME TIRED!

Deep to the bone tired....

And still life is still up in the air...

I am considering moving to Maryland if things do not work out with my house. At this point, after looking around at making a completely new life on the other side of the country where housing is dirt cheat....I'm not so sad! (also I can acupuncture pets)

I have seen the most beautiful homes for lease as well as rent to own, or for that matter for sale and that are like what I live in now..but at a fraction of the cost.

But....I have been wondering if owning is something I really want to do at this point. I'm thinking

SAVE SAVE SAVE....

EGADS....our world is upside down.

I went and saw a cute movie last night called Sunshine Cleaning...a small cute film...

Every weekend I go to the movies all by myself...sometimes twice in the same weekend. I'm making up for all that time where I never went because I felt I had to have my nose in a book.

Ahhh...I forgot the other benefit of moving out of state is that right when I get out of school and take the national exams...Wa La...i am a certified acupuncturist...it does not take near the hours of study as is does to get certified for the state of California...

so....not sure why I'm even hesitating at this point....

I have to add this video...i love weird dog videos...

When You Least Expect It

I had to laugh at this one......

I received a request form a guy who wanted herbs for his dog that had started to have some problems. So, I gave him a call and we started talking about the dog...

He then mentioned that he had seen my picture on the About Us page on my website.

Heheheheh...that was 18 months ago...before I got PawHealer up and running and became totally consumed.

Thinking back to that time, and looking at my picture...I remember thinking how I was "too fat" or not fit enough or whatever the crap that cycled through my mind at the tim.

Ahhh how I now long for those far away gym rat days....

Anyway....so I started talking to him...and he seems really nice. The conversation was interesting...and he then tells me he had looked at my picture...and he thought I was nice looking.

Well I was at the time! Now....as I have said...life has set in..on my ass!

Anyway...Later that day I received an e-mail from him...it's a picture of his dog, him and his daughter...and the entire family is adorable.

He is extremely handsome..and on top of it he's 50...OMG. I couldn't believe it.

So I sent him back an e-mail that I don't know who is cuter, his dog or him....

He sends me back a response telling me that he considers me a "hottie"....OMG as I roll my eyes...

That's so much pressure!

To be considered someone's "Hottie"...and 53 years old?

I don't do well under pressure.......

February

Hello Blog...It's been awhile, I loved this picture and had to post it.

It's hard to write after a full day of work and then a night of school....

None The Less Time to check in....

Last semester of school...hurray.

Business is doing pretty good considering that there is a depression going on. Just my luck that I start a business and the bottom falls out of the economy. But I shouldn't whine because it's paying the bills and it's growing and I really enjoy doing it.

Trying to decide my next step....what doctoral program to enter....

Pinky and Daisy are great....and healthy...and so is that Bad Dog Chico Martini

I started dating the ex-BF again...MISTAKE.

All it took was about 2 weeks and I new I had made a mistake. It really is true that you just can't go back....

So I am happy and single, and I really mean it, I have no desire to date. I am too busy to have to "give"...I know that sounds selfish. So Be It.

Finally spoke with my mom after 6 months. Its really very sad...now she is hunched over and slanted to the side like the wicked witch of the North...notice I did not say west. She looks just awful, it's as if every bone in her back has crumbled.

Still not sure if we're going to salvage the ole brokne mansion on the hill...we are in an official class action law suit. The housing situation being so undecided is a heavy load...it should be resolving one way or the other very soon.

That's it for now blog...tah tah

Can Cats Do This?

Hehehehehe...I only wish.....not so with my three....I am entertainment director, provider of food, and yes...the poop picker upper, I believe I am also low man of the pack....

The Human Condition

I work with people and I work with pets. Happily I get ready to sit for the national boards by this February as my career begins to take shape. It's all about me getting in the study mode.....I love the direction I have taken, I love working with pets and yes....even people.

But there is a frustrating element when working with herbs....and that's our overall mentality which comes from the culture of the past 50 years...This is the expectation that if we take one single pill we can then fix everything.

With herbs...sometimes one single formula can indeed work....and in other instances it may take a couple of tries at getting it to to change the condition.

But when sitting back and thinking about it is can we really say that it is really any difference than western medicine?

Not really.

Every day I work with so many people in which the dog has not been responding to western drug therapy. This is because either the drug just does not work, or the pet has become resistant to the medication.

And for some reason people give a lot more allowance if you will, to western pharmaceuticals...this can be confirmed by the gigantic veterinarian bills that I hear that people have paid.

By the time people have found me...they want ONE formula to work God Damn It!

Or they believe I have scammed them, yes name calling is a regular occurrence, even if I offer to give them a FREE second formula based on the results of the first formula....that just sucks...can you imagine?

It's okay, because 90% of the time we benefit the pet and they improve at least 50% and everybody is happy as the pet finds it's way back to good health.

But I can't help but feel discouraged sometimes....Mostly at the current human condition.

I don't understand why people can't see that too many drugs can actually hurt their pet...not to mention themselves....people are taking way too many prescriptions and its spilling over to our animals. It seems to me that no one is holding our doctors or our veterinarians responsible for this state of affairs.

The other day while at my acupuncture clinic, I was treating a man that was on 26 different medications. The side effects were taking an incredible toll, because by now, he can barely walk or get out of bed each day.

It's not my place to tell him he has to reduce the drug load....it's obvious that he is dying a slow medicated death...

As its not my place to tell pet owners that their lovely little family members are breaking down under the load of numerous meditations and they are also dying a slow and complicated death.

It doesn't matter, animal or person.....too much of a good thing can be bad.

So where does that leave us?

We have to work at getting better.

We must work on what we and our pets eat. We must view everything that we put in to our collective mouths as the opportunity to heal ourselves.

We must also find herbal remedies that can work in conjunction with our medications...they can actually help to minimize the drug side effects, and may actually help to reduce the required western medications, which indeed are a great thing, but given in large quantities, and for long periods of times, will begin to back fire...

In other works herbs and meds can work together, so we don't have to choose...why does our society believe we have to do one or the other? I ponder so often about that.

I just wish people would be as tolerant when working with herbs as they are with western meds....

When people call me...

I have one single shot....and if my one single shot does not work...people become angry...they call me names and just shit all over me...but that's okay...because there are people out there who have greatly benefited...so I continue on....

Even being called names is okay because you know what? I know I have a responsibility to these people who believe in this type of healing, and because the bar is set so high for me....I do a great job... because peoples high expectations are making me into the best herbalist I can be...

I love meeting expectations...every day I work to be the best there can be and I love when I hear the sweet sound of a pet owner telling me that the dog or cat they love is doing much better. It is like music to my ears....

Now it's your turn to work at getting better and time to open your mind....

Don't turn away from something that can work...

Have a little patience...

I promise we can make a difference (I'm writing this to the 10% out there that have no tolerance!).

Give herbs the chance that you have given the western medications...if you give equal time to the herbs, you will get the result you seek.

This is because in my humble opinion they are fantastic.....but take heed, I'm not saying they are a magic bullet....I think it's important for all of us to keep the following in our mind;

There are no wise men and there are no magic bullets......we must work at good health, we can not find it in a bottle or a pill...and that is the sad truth for our dogs and cats.

Me & Pinky and then there was 3

For two years...it's just been me and Pinky...of course Daisy girl is there, sleeping at the foot of the bed like a little rock. But Pinky is different.

Pinky is a secret cuddlier. During the day he is aloof and stands quietly by guarding his pack (me and Daisy)...

By night he is a little luv bug who insists that he be right by my side, and not more than 2 inches apart. You can always find Pinky right next to me sharing the same pillow.

I thought this was very cute and felt secure in his love until I finally....after two years...once again had some male human company.

This is a delicate subject.....

So here we are...very early into the morning, and having a very special intimate moment...

When I happened to look up because I felt something starring at me, and there was Pinky...not 6 inches away from me....looking extremely concerned.

I pushed him gently away thinking he would go elsewhere, while letting him know that I was fine.

And then all of the sudden there was that very intimate moment....if ya know what I mean.

Then simultaneously....there was another moment...But this involved Pinky.

Pinky proceeded to vomit on my arm.....I'm not kidding.

I didn't know what to do...I stayed still hoping that my friend wouldn't notice that my little dog had just had an emotional upset...when all the sudden;

It began to stink of that night's gobbled down chicken...It was indeed gross.

Yes, unfortunately my male company did figure it all out, and I had to cop to the situation...

I dare say that he was very understanding about the entire thing. He knows that my dog's are having trouble sharing me.

But this is a little ridiculous!

I Can't Believe This

This is an e-mail from a woman I have never spoken to. She bought a formula off the internet and her dog did not like the taste of it, so she has just returned it. Our web site clearly says we have 20 days to process the return...we received it Wednesday and have not even opened it. We do returns on the 15th and 30th of each month.

But that's not the point, I could never imagine sending a e-mail to someone telling they they disgust me...she has no idea who I am or what I do...she bought this formula off the internet...how in the world can she say I have do unauthorized activity on her credit card when she made the purchase herself.

And again...there are so many people we do business with that we help, people like her spoil it for the rest. People like this make you want to shy away from giving anything extra...for her to say I disgust her...

How awful is that?

Then later today I get another e-mail from her...she must read my blog, and she reminded me that she gave the order as a phone order....so lady...how did I make this charge unauthorized?

The funny thing is that she does have a credit coming, no one is disputing her and yet she is name calling, and threatening me with what I'm not sure, because we have an impeccable reputation.

Just the nastiness that people can show others...seems like the times are bringing out the worst in people.



Federal Trade Commission
From:
"Maureen Martin"
Here is her nice addition:

If you remember correctly I ordered this by phone..........you did not say a word I am done with you.... I will file a formal complaint with Consumer affairs in Sacramento and the Federal Trade Commission,. I will take care of this...
You are crooked.

Nice very nice......

Bliss

For sure at times ignorance is bliss....

Take for example my latest blunder.....I don't know how I found out, it was by mistake. But I discovered the guy I use to see had actually started a life without me...( I blogged about hacking his e-mail)

I guess I really wasn't expecting it because he would on a very regular basis, come over and declare his undying love for me...and there I would sit in my solitary haze of self confidence, that I had his love forever....just waiting for him to change for me.

I think during these past two years of not being physically involved with him, I believed at some sort of level, that one day he would come to appreciate everything I had to offer, and then be able make the necessary profound changes required for us to be a happy couple.

"Auggg"...."sigh".....with a shake of the head.....maybe this time I can really learn;

You can only change yourself...and that's a monumental task in itself, let alone expecting someone to change for you. Impossible!

After a failed attempt for the past four weeks to see if we could work it out...I'm once again at that point that I know for a fact that we could never give to each other what each of us needs from the other....Although he promised me this time to give me what I felt I had never been given in the past, I see that he still can't me today what I expected yesterday...thus...time to move on...and I mean really move on this time.

Why is it that it's the woman that always has to conform? It's over again even before it started. At least I didn't sleep with him again....OMG I would of hated myself.

This is the eve of my 53rd birthday....I hope when I am writing to my blog next year I will have grown a little wiser, because DAMN IT....your suppose to get wiser with age, not stupider with more wrinkles and some gray hair.

I seem to keep making the same mistakes over and over and over.......Happy 53rd year birthday Holly, apparently you are older but not any wiser....

Oh well another whole year to get it right!